TUG OF COMMITMENTS OR TUG OF WAR?

TUG OF COMMITMENTS OR TUG OF WAR?

TUG OF COMMITMENTS OR TUG OF WAR?

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At a meeting with a group of women working in a large corporation, one discussion revolved around the transition from holiday or vacation mode to the fast-paced, demanding schedule of “everyday” life.

Several women had found a way to make that transition with more ease and consequently felt better equipped to tackle the challenges of their work. Here are some of the things they did:

  1. Returned to work a few days after the holiday/vacation to create a buffer, so she wasn’t transitioning immediately back to the demands of work.

  2. Scheduled meetings in advance of her return, on open projects and initiatives, so that they were strategically placed over a few weeks. This signaled the project was on track and not forgotten and didn’t require responses to everything as soon as she returned.

  3. Took a “real” vacation and unplugged from work providing instructions that if she was really needed to text her and she would reply. By the way, this woman said she hadn’t unplugged from work in years.

The key to these successful strategies is that the women set boundaries. They drew a line in the sand and said here is where my work stops and my personal life begins.

Many of you are thinking “that wouldn’t work for me”. You might even think, “I like to stay on top of my email so when I go back, I am not swamped”.

However, what each of these women shared was how restorative it was for them to use these strategies. They felt refreshed and energized when they returned to their work. One woman said she found herself getting revved up to return to work and felt she had a freshly focused perspective to bring to her initiatives.

If you find yourself setting boundaries (drawing a line in the sand) and then having a Tug of War in which you are often pulled over the line and lose, you may want to look at what is causing you to not stick to your boundaries.

Think instead about striving for a Tug of Commitments in which you feel an energy and a desire to focus on your work. This is more likely to happen when you set boundaries and ensure that you invest time and energy into your personal life and passions.

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Lynn Schaber, MCC
For the past 20 years, I’ve been privileged to partner with individuals intent on cracking the code to leadership beyond the ordinary.